Thursday, November 13, 2014
Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips. Psalm 141:3 (NIV)
Take control of what I say, O Lord, and guard my lips. Psalm 141:3 (NLT)
2. Mind the gap – Use the time between the stimulus and your response to consider your words.
3. Don’t engage in verbal battle
“Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something” (Plato).
4. Lower the volume: You can’t carry on an argument in a whisper.
5. Visualize your response before you respond. Picture it in action and then in the aftermath, ask, “Is this the response I want?” and “Is this the response Christ wants?”
6. Engage in effective communication - Communicate exactly what you are feeling: “Please listen to me. Please understand why I’m feeling this way. Can you do me the favor of being patient?”
7. Take a break - If you need to cool off before attempting a conversation, give yourself a time out. Temporarily disengage. Be sure to re-engage and communicate in a considerate, positive, assertive tone..
· I want that—give it to me.
· I’m right.
· That’s not fair.
· If I cry, I’ll get my way.
· If I wait long enough, someone else will do it.
· Rules apply to everyone but me.
- Ugly thoughts = ugly action
- Positive thoughts = positive actions
- Intentional thoughts=intentional actions
1. Rename it – Tell yourself this thought is a negative, bad, ungodly, unkind, etc. thought
2. Re-frame it – Focus on a positive or distracting thought
3. Redirect your actions to something uplifting, fun, or engaging.
· Establish and verify facts of the situation/relationship/arrangement
· Consider the consequences of actions.
· Determine a logical response
Responding to a Biblical Fool